Life is a funny thing. Your perception is that everything is great, all the hard work you have put in over the years is finally paying off. You have a great job, you have just bought your first house, and you have welcomed your sixth child in the world, and to top it off your first boy after many girls!
Life is great.
Any then it all goes to hell in a handbasket in the blink of an eye… well in my case is was a slow descent in madness. Everything you thought you knew was wrong, that what you thought was important no longer is… the job is changing you into a different kind of person, you’re unhappy at work and that spills over into your home life, it creates problems there and feeds the cycle back into work… you work longer and harder at work thinking that doing better there will help at home, it feeds into itself until before you know it everything you once held important to you seems to be slipping away right before your eyes.
To steal a line from Star Wars, “The more you tighten your grasp, the more star system will slip through your fingers.” ~ Princess Leia. I tried to hold on to everything and ended up losing everything. It was a very humbling experience experience, even worse when it happens twice.
Perhaps I should start at the beginning.
Hi, my name is Ed Dillon and I am the father of four wonderful children. Emily (16), Megan (13), Jennifer (5) and Austin (3) and at one point in my life I had six children. When I met wife # 2 she has two children of her own, Jason (16) and Emily (12) and for a good many years I referred to my life as Six Kid Chaos. Hence the name of this site! I have been married twice, and unfortunately divorced twice. Not fun experiences, as when I got married for the first time I thought that was it. I was getting married once in my life and that was going to be it, often times in life what we think will happen turns out to be the exact opposite.
But that is life, right? What I have learned over the past six months is how to roll with life, take these setbacks that life will throw your way and being able to dust yourself off and keep moving forward.