Quick to Anger, Starting to Fade…

I have a temper. It can get pretty bad at times. It was unfortunately how I raised my first two children as they were afraid of me. I never hit or mistreated them but I did yell and get angry a lot. Far too much…

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It was the main reason I had to walk away from my job of 20 years as it made me incredibly angry and frustrated. I am sure it is the main reason that Emily has left the house…

This summer I got my first speeding ticket just due to anger of the guy driving slowly in front of me…

I’ve been changing these past few months and I’ve slowly starting to see it go away. My youngest Austin is starting to take other people’s things and do dumb kid things around the house that in the past would get me fired up.

This morning I found myself in a situation where normally anger would be first reaction. I calmly asked him to sit down in front of me and I got down on the floor with him and in a real quiet and comforting voice talked him about what he was doing and offered suggestions how he could behaviour better. I had to repeat myself several times but at no point did an ounce of anger enter my body.

When I was done he looked at me said sorry and jumped into my arms to tell me he loves me and give me hugs and kisses.

The lesson I learned was that if you give out calmness and love to a child it comes back ten times over.

I continue to make and look forward to these small victories everyday.