So it’s definitely been awhile since I’ve sat down to write a blog post for my little site here. I honestly was upset for the ripple effect I saw in my personal life from a simple blog post(s) from earlier this year, and I’ve been busy! Going back to work full time and head first dove into the world of dating once again.
And that experience is what I want to write about again. My goal is to simple share my experiences, both good and bad and hopefully someone can learn something and apply it to their own life. That would be aces.
As of this writing, it’s been about five weeks since I made the decision to date again. And is that really a decision you make? I just woke up one day and said to myself, today is the day to get back out there. What was it about that particular day versus every other day, I couldn’t tell you. I just knew that I finally, after almost two years felt ready to give it a serious try. Now when I do something, it’s 100% and then a little more, as I believe that you only get back what you are willing to put in…
Two months ago, a co-worker and I were talking about Tinder, the “dating” app where you can swipe right (I like), or left (no thanks) based on a few pictures, and maybe a paragraph or two… So as much as an experiment as anything else, I created a Tinder profile and started swiping away. It felt very underwhelming to be looking for love on my cell phone, swiping left or right. This site is also geographically based, meaning you can only see certain woman based on your search radius and where you are actually located.
Let’s just say in that first few weeks I learned all the single ladies in and around Barrie and Angus… I’ve yet to meet someone in person that I’ve seen online, and I often find myself wondering if someone out there recognizes me?
“Hey, I saw you on Tinder but I didn’t swipe right…”
Is that really a conversation anyone wants to ever have?
I honestly wasn’t getting much action on Tinder until I changed my profile picture. Once I loaded this picture, Tinder blew up for me. I would argue I saw 1000% more interest based on this picture.
I had a few ladies ask if that was really me in the picture, and yes it is! Perhaps my all time favorite photo of me, cause in all honesty I look fantastic. I would sleep with me…
I’d just finished a 1.5 km swim after jumping off the side of a steamship, flew out of the transition area on my bike and finished the first climb of the day. The photographer, Mike Cheliak was sitting in the middle of the road at the top of the hill snapping away. My arms, chest and shoulders were still all pumped up from a 40 minute swim, and start of the bike.
I also dusted off my old profile on Match which I had set up the previous summer without much success, truthfully I wasn’t ready for that whole world just yet. I believe I went on one date, and uncovered at least three scams to get money from me. It was not a good experience because I just didn’t have the right mindset, and any relationship that I may have started would have been doomed to failure.
The whole online dating process is a lot like answering want ads or applying for a job might be an even more accurate statement. Your searching through all the listings, looking for the “lady” that might just be the one, that right combination of interesting words and a eye catching picture of two. With so many different people out there, all looking for something slightly different you never know the responses you might get, and from whom…
From the research that I did, there seemed to be lots of ideas of what to include in your profile to draw interest. And from talking with people about their experience(s) in the world of online dating, and from my own experience so far I can honestly say you are never going to know, nor should you be surprised by anything that may happen.
So over the next few months I will be sharing my experiences to date, pun intended. And truthfully I’ve already met someone pretty special, things are going very well and it was the most unexpected person I would ever have guessed.